The Gift of An Orange
Joan Tornow
I was in the customer service line at the grocery store, waiting to return something when I noticed a little boy crying. He was about four years old and with a man currently at the customer service window. As the small boy continued to wail, the man leaned down and asked, “What’s the matter?”
The boy pointed toward the grocery cart of a nearby customer. “I want an orange!” the boy said, tears pouring down his cheeks.
“That’s not our cart,” said the man. “You have to stop crying and wait till we get home.” I noticed that he had a Jamaican accent. He returned to his conversation with the customer service representative.
The boy continued to gaze longingly at the nearby cart where a bag of oranges lay underneath a bunch of groceries.
The cart belonged to a shopper who said, surprisingly, “Oh, do you want one of my oranges?”
The boy managed to stop crying long enough to say, “Yes, please.”
The shopper, an older woman, dug deep into her cart to extract the red net bag of bright orange fruits. With some effort, she tore open the netting, extracted an orange, and extended it to the boy. He stood transfixed before cautiously reaching out and taking this gift. It was as if he couldn’t quite believe his wish was being granted.
The man said to his son, “Say thank you!” and the boy said, “Thank you.”
“Why, you’re welcome, young man,” said the woman as she started to push her cart toward the exit. I caught up with her and told her how impressed I was with her sensitivity and generosity. “It was only an orange,” she said. “We need to be nice to each other.” She spoke with an accent, and I realized she was probably an immigrant. So, both the man and the woman had roots beyond this country. Acts of kindness transcend differences and remind us that we’re all in this together.
On another day, I myself was the recipient of a random act of kindness. I had purchased a mirror that, as it turned out, would not quite fit in the trunk of my compact car. As I prepared to return the mirror, a young woman approached and offered to take it to my house for me in her SUV. At first, I refused her offer, but she insisted, saying she didn’t have to be anywhere.
At my house, I tried to give her a few bills “for gas, at least …” but she politely declined. It was the holiday season, and I guess many are filled with good will at that time of year – not that I doubt her willingness to do this at any time.
As I tucked the money back into my purse, I spotted a fold of holiday stamps I had bought earlier and pulled them out. “Well, please let me wish you happy holidays!” I said, holding the stamps out to her. She took the stamps with a smile and was off. This was a win-win, I believe, because I’m guessing she felt as warm as I did even as snow gently began falling. As she backed her SUV out of the driveway, we smiled and waved, and the garage door slid shut.
Honoring a Young Trivia Hostess
Dick Forman
Our senior trivia team, “Old School,” competes every Thursday evening at a local restaurant called Tick Tocks. Our hostess, Cora Ann, is a 28-year-old young woman who has decided to turn over the job of hostess to her mother as Cora Ann is to be married in a few weeks.
Our team decided to get Cora Ann a congratulatory card and I decided to write a little ditty to hand to her at the end of her last evening hosting us.
When we handed the card and my poem to her, she read the card and smiled. Then, she read what I had written and happy tears flooded her face. She declared that we were the greatest and she would be putting our poem on her wall. Here is what I wrote:
One happy night
Cora Ann came into sight
With her style, talent, and grace
She soon filled Tick Tock’s place
Tuesdays became her contest dates
Wake up Stan so we won’t be late
Terry and Dick completed our trio
With a little luck we often avoided zero
Alas, we must now bid Cora Ann adieu
Cora, please always remember “Old School.”
Memories of First Grade in South Dakota
Peggy Freeburg
I spent most of my school years in one building, the same one my mother and all nine children in our family attended. It was a plain brick building with the elementary grades on the main floor and the gym and bathrooms in the basement. Upstairs was the high school, and we thought that was a very big deal! The building is still used as a school today and looks like it will last for another generation at least.
My mother was a member of the first class to graduate from the 12th grade in this school. There were eight members in her class, and about eighteen in mine -- not a big growth spurt in 40 years. When I was there, we had two grades to a room, and we all had our own desks -- not two to a desk like the parochial school I had attended later.
Our townsfolk had never heard of kindergarten or admission tests, so since I would be six in November, I started first grade at the age of five. Miss Nettie Ryan was my teacher. I don't remember her face, but she was tall and slim. She didn't hug us and we didn't exactly love her, but we trusted her and felt secure in her presence. More than of any other person from my school days, images of her still often flit to my mind.
Except for having desks instead of tables and chairs, the classroom was much like those of today. "Palmer Method" alphabet letters, and pictures we had drawn and colored formed a border around the upper part of the room.
There was a big area where we could all sit on the floor with our eyes on Miss Ryan who would sit on a low stool in front of us. She would hold up a flash card with a word printed on it. If we could read it, we had "shot a pheasant" --remember, we were on the prairies of South Dakota, and shooting pheasants was what folks did in the fall.
One day Miss Ryan announced that we were to have a very special treat the next day. For the first and only time, a movie would be shown to the whole school. If we wanted to see it, we should bring a nickel to school and we could see the movie. If we didn't want to, that would be fine, too. Well, I had never seen a movie, but it didn't seem like a very big deal. So I didn't bring a nickel.
Imagine my surprise when every other student in first and second grades got up and filed out of the room with nickel in hand. Oh, tears began to flow by the bucketful as once again my head plopped down on my folded arms on my desk. After an eternity, I felt a hand on my shoulder, and when I looked up, there was the janitor standing beside me. He asked me if I would like to go to the movie. He would be glad to pay my nickel.
I don't remember anything about the movie, but I'll never forget the kindness of that man. I didn't know him, but he knew that I was the little sister of his sister's long-time boyfriend. But I think most of all, he knew that I needed someone to care.
I was a good student, and often helped other students reading or arithmetic. But I remember how embarrassed and disappointed I felt once to get a "C" for my coloring of a lion. One day Miss Ryan stood by the blackboard on which she had written several sets of numbers, each with about two rows of three digits each, and a line drawn below them. I could add just fine, but I could not imagine how she arrived at the numbers she would put down this time when she called on a student for the answer. I had been out of school for several weeks due to measles and complications, and I just could not fathom what they had been up to while I was gone. I raised my hand for a long time, wanting to ask what they were doing, but the teacher didn't call on me.
Finally my frustration got the best of me, and I began to cry into my folded arms with my head down on my desk. At long last, the lunch bell rang and I ran home as fast as my legs would carry me. I told my big sister, Florencie, about the numbers I had memorized and asked if she had any idea what they were doing. We curled up in an overstuffed chair together, and she explained to me the mysteries of subtraction.
We were in Miss Ryan's room for two years, of course, and at the beginning of each year we would each bring a new tablet to school. Such a wonderful tablet it was, with a beautiful picture on the cover. I remember the paper being rough...only very rarely did we get one that had smooth paper. Miss Ryan would collect all the tablets, and when we needed paper, she would tear out one sheet from each student's tablet and give it to him. We each had a pencil, sometimes an eraser, and a box of crayons that we were allowed to keep in our desk. We would have a treasured cigar box to keep them in. Not fancy, not covered in colorful paper, just a wonderful box that came from the pool hall.
We read stories about Spot ("See Spot. See Spot run") and Jane -- she ran, too. Dick also ran. I had a special book of my very own. The stories in this treasured book were about Peter and Peggy. No wonder I liked it. One of my favorite stories was about Peter and Peggy going to see a batch of newly hatched baby chicks in a store window. All the chicks except one were bright yellow, but one was black. Children crowded around the window excitedly calling out, "See the little yellow chicks. Oh, see the little yellow chicks."
The little black chick in the story grew sadder and sadder as he heard the children comment about the yellow chicks. Oh, how he wished someone would notice him. Suddenly "Peggy" called out, "See the little black chick! Oh, see the little black chick!" And the little black chick was happy. I still feel tears behind my eyes when I recall this.
Even with three or four dozen children in a classroom, and one teacher and no aides, we had no discipline problem. I do recall, however, one child being laid over Miss Ryan's knee and spanked with a rolled up paper as she sat on that low stool. I wasn't aware of any behavior that warranted this, but we all made ourselves as small and quiet as possible for sometime afterwards.
I guess this boy didn't learn his lesson the first time, because he "got it again" later in the year. There was never any comment made regarding the matter and no further recurrence.
I loved the spelldowns we would have. All the students would line up around the edge of the room, and in turn would be given a word to spell. They could remain standing as long as they correctly spelled their word. I had my share of being the last one standing.
Miss Ryan was not a fashion model. Another picture of her that comes into my mind is of her one day wearing a short-sleeved blouse over a long-sleeved sweater. At my tender age I noticed that most of the teachers didn't dress that way. But Miss Ryan was a good teacher. When she retired after teaching for 50 years, she was honored with statewide acclaim.
A Reminder of Human Goodness
Paula Knauer
Because of my nearly 60-year connection and affection for Germany, I’d been committed to returning as an 80th birthday present to myself. I’d made many trips these past years, but this one was significant. Though it meant taking a big chunk from my dwindling savings, returning to Europe each year for both new and old experiences was how I wished to spend my remaining resources.
For the past 15 years I have stayed each time in a Franciscan convent along the Main River near Wurzburg, Germany, my husband’s hometown. And my wish this time was to spend two months at the convent as a sort of “home base.” From there I could visit family and friends and also see places I’d never visited before. I’ve now been here one month and am reveling in the many sweet happenings of my wished-for 80th birthday present.
Months prior to my departure for Europe, dear friends of 30+ years sent me the airfare and spending money for my planned trip. Then in September my birthday was celebrated with a few family members, and they added to the coffers. Another friend forwarded me her leftover Euros from a recent trip, and it was enough to pay my train fare from Frankfurt to the convent.
Upon arrival to the convent, I was prepared to pay the usual price associated with my earlier visits. But in a very unusual and unexpected gesture, sisters here had arranged for me to “rent” a small living space with all I would need for the entire time within the same convent they live. A true blessing. In addition, after consultation with the newly-elected Mother Superior, the sisters had agreed to a hugely-reduced “rental fee” for my time at the convent. Oh my. I was so excited about this I could hardly sleep.
Other unexpected kindnesses came in the form of a welcome card and flowers and messages from the sisters I’ve known some years now. Then 90-year-old Sister G., knowing how much I love a certain camembert cheese spread, made sure that upon my arrival there was some in the little fridge inside my room. Other times she would leave a small bag on my door handle with sandwich-makings from a young Polish woman who lives on the convent properties and whom I’d met a few years back.
Then there is Sister L. who leaves me cakes and other food items as she knows I am on my own for meals here. And to my amusement, she even bestowed upon me a tasty bottle of beer with decorative bottle dedicated to the Octoberfest. Indeed, I am hardly for want in the food department! It seems that both German family members and friends from over the years are committed to ensuring my full stomach as well as my safety and well-being while in their country. And the gifts and kindnesses have not let up.
This is a reminder to me that in spite of the many stresses most people are experiencing in this very complicated and worrisome world in which we live, there remain so many who retain a sensitivity to their fellow human beings. This leaves me quite humbled and extremely grateful to all who have made it possible for me to enjoy my greatest pleasure of being in Germany in a safe environment with all that I need: Friends, family, security, and the creation of beautiful memories which I will always treasure.
An Incident at Government Springs Park, 1938
Jim York
Government Springs Park in Enid, Oklahoma, was a small park a bit east and south of downtown. It was a pleasant green spot with lots of trees where people would come in summer to relax in the cool shade. There was a small lake in the park that was a magnet for children. There were rowboats one could rent to take a spin on the lake.
I happened to be in the park one summer evening. There was a lot of commotion around me with children running and screaming as they played. As I watched them play, I saw one small boy in his exuberance get too near the edge of the lake and fall into its deeper part. There was a concrete dam-like walk along one side of the lake with a railing on it. It should have prevented such an accident but it didn't.
Obviously the child could not swim because he was splashing around and going under the water. I was some distance away from where the boy fell in. There were quite a few people in the area and I expected someone to do something about the child. No one seemed to want to do anything. They acted as if nothing was happening. When it became obvious to me that nothing was going to be done for the child, I rushed over from where I stood and jumped into the water, clothes and all and managed to pull the child to where someone pulled him out of the water.
I believe if I had not gone in after the boy he would have drowned. Just why those who were in the area choose not to do anything to save the child, I couldn't say. Maybe they didn't want to get wet, maybe they could not swim. Maybe they were just indifferent but it would have been a tragedy if the boy had drowned.
I don't remember what happened when I crawled out of the water. I can't recollect anyone saying anything to me. The child himself had run off perhaps to go home as he should have. I was not looking for recognition for what I had done but the lack of concern is something I could not understand then or now either. I wonder why I waited, myself, thinking that someone would have tried to help the boy when he was obviously in grave danger. I had a good feeling, however, when it was over that I had done what needed to be done and continue, after almost sixty years to remember the event and my part in it.

I’ve always loved to walk. To propel myself from one place to another. Putting one foot in front of the other. My mother used to tell me that even as a toddler I had a very sure-of-myself confident walk. I am not sure how confident I am now that I am nearing 78 years of age. In fact, to avoid any more falls (I’d had 3 within 9 months a few years back), I am focused on staring at my feet as I walk to be sure I don’t encounter any bumps or other hazards along the way. Even so, this is not a foolproof way of preventing falls. I am easily distracted. By the fresh and cool morning air. By the bright and lovely flowers in the many gardens along the way. By the sounds of chirping birds. By the magnificent and abundant trees along my path which always amaze me. How can they grow so tall and not fall over? And why do the deep lines and furrows of the trees somehow look “distinguished” and even lovely on their massive trunks, but those lines look very different on my own face?

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